Friday, 9 November 2012

The Value Of Your Personal Brand Is Tantamount To Your Reputation...

I think some are confused about the real meaning of Personal Branding. In many cases, it's thought to be solely an online tool to increase one's profile. Of course it can do that and that's all well and good. Others believe its primary function is to assist us with being discovered online by recruitment companies and the like. You get the picture. In short, by many, Personal Branding is considered to give one an elevated online profile.

While it's important to ensure that we prominently promote ourselves online, equally as important, is how we promote ourselves.  First, ask yourself what your purpose is. I come across many men and women who say their only purpose in life is to support their family, or, to climb the corporate ladder. And whilst these goals and aspirations are worthy, in my opinion they are not enough. To be able to live a fuller life, we need to establish our purpose; something far bigger than generic personal, or family goals. This means discovering what we are here to do. Better still, what kind of legacy we wish to leave.
I firmly believe that each of us need to have a purpose that as well as being personally motivated, is universally motivated. That's to say, bigger than just about us and/or our nearest and dearest. The world is more connected now, more than it ever has been, which means we now have the means to communicate with far more people than we ever have. We have the opportunity to let large numbers  know who we are, moreover, how we can affect their lives. Some of us will write a book, others teach, perhaps help a charity, or maybe learn a new skill that will have a positive impact on others.  

It doesn't matter what your purpose is, what does matter is that you have one. For instance, you might decide to help an elderly neighbour with their shopping. Perhaps visit someone in a home or hospital. Give a small amount of cash to a charity. These relatively small acts of generosity tend to ignite our ability to think outside the box. Furthermore, these kinds of deeds lead us to releasing dopamine, affectionately known as the "happy hormone." In addition, it kick starts the process of us developing our bigger purpose with greater ease and leads us to greater self discovery.
We now have the facility to spread our word both quicker and more effectively than any other time in history. Surely we can make our purpose wider than just about what we personally want.  Our reputation can be further enhanced, or damaged according to how we portray ourselves. And in order to enhance our reputation, to a degree, will depend how others talk about us. In addition, we need to become kinder, more thoughtful and generous. These three characteristics will change our way of thinking, and change the way we are perceived. 
Garnering a top-notch reputation is no mean feat. First, you must know what your purpose is. It's not enough to say 'My purpose is to be a great provider to my family.' Of course that's important and something to be proud of. My point is, that in order to garner a stellar reputation, we need to be known for what we do outside of our personal life. For instance, my purpose, outside my personal life is to help and guide men and women to become more authentic. Discovering yours will be a life changing event. 
To discover your purpose follow the steps below:

* Consider doing something for somebody else - unconditionally

* Think of goals that include others outside of your nearest and dearest

* Give of yourself to those less fortunate than you

* Express gratitude for what you do have

* Do consider how it might be for others - who are less fortunate than you

* Use kindness and empathy towards others if need be



Tuesday, 31 July 2012

 The Power Of Awareness And Empathy 

Awareness of self and of those around us provides us with the gift of empathy. When we are truly able to empathise, we become closer to being a better human being. Empathy is a trait that we can all learn. It begins to emerge when we are able to dissolve our ego. That is, not to focus only on ourselves, our needs and wants. Of course, we are all conscious of how we want to live, for some, it's about how to survive and get by. However, if we are only focused in this way, we neglect our spiritual needs. By that, I’m referring to aspects that make us more conscious of the world around us. One might say; the things that are not all about us.

Some of the individuals I coach, are daunted when I explain to them that when our ego is dissolved,  we become an improved version of who we are. A gentleman banker I worked with recently, just couldn’t see the point of letting go of his ego. For him, the very thought was an anathema. It was as if he’d been conditioned to believe that he was the centre of the universe. Therefore, almost everything that happened to him mattered to everyone else.

It's only by attempting to develop a non-egotistic mind, that we can explore the great benefits that emerge from not just focusing on ourselves. I used to think that individuals who conveyed scoops of empathy and compassion, had what contemporary psychologists describe as a 'natural pattern': a talent that enables them to feel and communicates empathetically naturally. Lately, I've discovered that what seemingly comes natural, is a hard earned skill. In essence, when we are empathetic toward others, we are making a sacrifice. That's because we are giving our attention to another individual. It's like saying, his/her needs are greater than mine, therefore, here, I don't come first.

One of the big advantages of seeing life through the eyes of another, is that it diverts your attention away from the concerns you have that only relate to you, and are about you. The reason for this is because when we give our complete attention to someone else's life challenges, our own become less of a concern. In essence, that's how we can reduce catastrophizing less about our lot. Somehow, the more time we spend worrying about our concerns, no matter how small or large, they tend to expand exponentially. So, giving of yourself to another person and their needs, no matter what you are going through, is a positive strategy for reducing stress and worry.             


Thursday, 14 June 2012

Wednesday, 1 February 2012

Your Personal Brand And Your Reputation

Each of us has a Personal Brand... In part, it’s to do with our reputation. To a degree, our reputation can rest upon what others, who think they know us, say about us. And in these somewhat volatile times, having a reputation we are proud of is something that has become pivotal. With a top-notch reputation we can win more business, stand taller, raise our self esteem, increase our confidence, and trust ourselves more.

To have a Personal Brand you are proud of, you’ll need to have specific qualities and characteristics in place. Although there’s no one-size-fits-all standard, there are certain aspects of our personality, when developed appropriately that aid our journey into being the best version of who we are. I’d like to share my heartfelt beliefs of some aspects of our personalities I consider to be highly important. First, we need to acknowledge the fact that we make a first impression within the first 10-seconds of meeting someone for the first time.

To ensure that the impression we make is the right one, we need to make sure our mind is free of negative thoughts. With this one quality in place we can convey an upbeat attitude. To dissolve negative thinking, we just need to breathe consciously, and when you feel comfortable, breathe more deeply inwardly and outwardly, slowly, three times. When we do this, we provide more oxygen to our brain; hence, giving ourselves an uplift in energy. Then, hold your head high; stand tall and observe how much better you feel. If you do this regularly it will become natural.

The other quality we need to convey is enthusiasm. Think about it, doesn’t it feel good to be in the company of people who are enthusiastic? We tend to mirror the behaviours of others, so each and every way we communicate is likely to be mirrored by them. Genuine enthusiasm is contagious, because it provokes good feelings and dissolves negativity, both within us and in others. To experience more enthusiasm, consider three things in your life you are most proud of. As Richard Bandler, the founder of NLP has said, “You get more of what you focus on”. So focus on all the good stuff you do, have done, and you are likely to get more of what you want.

It’s said that nice people don’t finish first, or can be trodden on, etc. Consider your intention and purpose. If your intention is to connect, and your purpose is to help others, being nice is vital. We do more business with the people we like. Being nice can be a discipline for some, an effort for others, and/or too much of a stretch. Irrespective of how easy or challenging being nice is for you, know that by going the extra mile and doing the right thing, even if nobody’s looking, will enable you to feel better about your life.

Being able to engage and build rapport is both rewarding personally and a wonderful quality to be able to convey. In essence, it’s to do with the desire to communicate with people in ways that are warm, personable and friendly. First, you’ll need to know how to ask ‘good questions’, questions that are personable, not personal. A good question is one that has a reigned in ego, and who’s primary intention is not about what’s in it for me.’ It has to be a question that shows genuine interest, an ability to listen 100% and have a genuine desire to engage.